What do men desire the most?

Men are always accused of being prey to some things they just don’t have any control over. They are termed as demanding, bossy, egocentric and even inept especially when it comes to sex. Is that rue?

IT’S TRUE that most men are alike but some aren’t, and they are considered as feminine, but yet there are others who first fall in the category of being great and then to the not-so-great category. Well let’s start from the beginning.

Most men believe that they are the most important species that we women are dealing with. Sure they may be great with numbers, especially with telephone numbers of some great gangling females; they are still their stages of infancy when it comes to feelings. After a good search i have found out that most men are visually stimulated, in simple they have to see everything to understand and believe. From a sexy pair of legs to a passably satisfying bosom.

But when we talk about women, a woman needs to be stroked and felt, whereas a man has already been stroked by his mere vision. He doesn’t need to drone her just speaks his mind and sees it. This is perhaps the reason why men seem to get aroused much faster than women would.

It’s true that most men love to be ahead of everything, be it career or sex. If they cannot find themselves to get on to the top of it all, they lose interest. Most of the times, a man challenges himself into believing that he can be the best lover and although he may not vibe with the feelings of the heart, he does pursue the issue only because he knows that he can get his woman laid, in this manner.

Another shortcoming that he might face as compared to women is that men cannot understand images. They are trained in the physical aspects of life, which may range from making tree houses to even making their own homes. They cannot imagine that most of the planning can be done in advance so as to make their own lives easier a little later.

Women are genetically inclined to literary arts and poetry, which makes them the "feeling" people. People who can understand, feel and more importantly visualize. It is no wonder then that most women can partake in the mass appreciation of pornographic stories and pictures. Men only use these as objects to get a massive turn on, again a visual aspect and not related to imagery.

Most men prefer to have the light on; perhaps a little dim too as the thrill to watch a woman naked is perhaps unmatched to any other in the world. Women almost always need to have the light off. So many differences, why is it for a woman to understand a man is always been easier then a man understanding a woman.

It’s not only the part of sex, where the understanding is required; sex is always been a physical game for most men. During my survey on wild sex I encountered men largely seeking sex in the animated form. Which was hard to believe?

For them sex need not prescribe to the notion of being loved. Yes love is a part of it, not the heart of it. Sex was always a beast-like affair. One that involved huge fight-like encounter, with both partners wanting for more. This is so because for them, sex is only sex and nothing more. It’s more like a pornographic movie, the more the better.

Most of them understand the huge importance of drugs used to virtually increase sexual stimulation that can last for hours together, without any breaks. One man was hugely candid about saying that sex was more of a release of tension, of tensed nerves as it were, so the more release the better. The frequency of sex also mattered.

My research has given me many reasons to write on but if I sit down on writing the differences, the truth will come out of the hidden picture. Let’s keep it the way it goes.

Is money the key to a happy marriage?

Do women go for one’s looks or bank balance? is an age old question that still remains unanswered. But studies show that demand and supply equations inform gender equations as well.

IS IT true that looks matter when it comes to love? A study provides hard evidence to the suggestions that the fairer sex is attracted not to a man’s looks, but to his status, power and wealth.

According to a research conducted in 1909, when men are in short supply due to events such as wars, women are willing to settle for poorer partners of lesser social sway. However, when male population increases, women tend to turn fussy and go for the richest and most powerful men. This in turn, ‘radically reduces’ the marriage prospects of poor-off men.

As quoted by Dr Thomas Pollet, department of evolutionary psychology, University of Liverpool, “We show that if men are abundant, this will influence the market value of their desired traits, that is, women can demand more. This aspect, namely individual decision making as a function of the mating market (local abundance or scarcity), has been relatively neglected within the literature on human mate choice.”

According to the Pollet, when the sex ratio is equivalent, married men are inclined to have a little higher socio-economic status than unmarried men. “As the sex ratio augments, married men are expected to need up two or three times the socio-economic status of unmarried men,” he said.

Frank Pedersen of the University of Delaware confirmed the study in 1991, which concluded that sex percentage has a big impact on the marriage market.

“Thus, much about the varying culture of male and female behaviour across populations and across time could in slandered be clarified with orientation to the sex ratio,” said Pollet.

The question of whether looks matter when it comes to love is age old and still remains unanswered. But these studies has clearly recognised the more limited fact that sex ratio fluctuations in human beings can put one sex in the driving seat.

Hitler, the man he was

We all know the actual story behind Hitler being what he was, but there is the other side of him, which made him what he turned into. Hitler indicates a weak man, driven by his ardors, a fearful coward, entirely disconnected from reality.

Hitler was a confused anti-intellectual, a megalomaniac with a marvelous scorn for an average man, an extreme opportunist who believed in his messianic mission, hating democratic system and dreaming about war. A master of terrorist, who thought that terror and cruelty could solve all the problems of humanity.

All the disastrous decisions affecting millions of people, like going to war he made alone, in complete secrecy, guided by his "instinct" or rather compulsions. Using German gullibility and respect for authority, and clever propaganda reinforced with terror he developed a unique symbiosis with the German people, he attained a Godlike statue, used to spread violence, death and destruction.

CONFUSED ANTI-INTELLECTUAL

Wagener, one time associate of Hitler and member of the inner circle, describe Hitler as a half-educated, self-taught man laden with prejudices, with preference for pseudo-science, with a penchant for spinning out theories. What he expounded had far-reaching implications but was based on a small, usually very questionable factual foundation. When he spoke, his words would engulf his listeners like an overpowering flood.

Wagener in his memoirs states that Hitler had a low regard for intellectual qualities:

“Intellect, if you take a close look, is the atrophy of natural instinct.... Intellect has nothing to do with human intelligence and knowledge. Most people confuse them.... The Jew cannot refrain from showing off his supposed intellect. Sometimes what he says sounds quite brilliant, sometimes it even is brilliant.”

“Hitler never sketched out his ideas at his desk but elaborated them in the course of conversations or discussions, did not give any clear sphere of responsibility, or autonomy of action, and frequently changed his mind.... So it came about quite naturally that truly outstanding men did not carry long in Hitler's entourage and that inevitable he found himself surrounded by simpletons, mindless scum, and flatterers.”

Rauschning quotes Hitler saying:

“We must distrust the intelligence and the conscience and must place our trust in our instincts.”

WEAKNESS AND PASSIVITY

Hitler was known for his temper, and despite outward appearance, he was a weak scared person, lacking personal courage, who never visited the front, staying behind in comfortable conditions. He was always guided by his passions and emotions or rather by his inner tensions and conflicts. Hitler never visited bombed out German cities, he always traveled at night in a limousine with tightly drawn curtains.

On July 25, 1943 Goebbels wrote in his diary:

“These letters keep asking why the Fuhrer does not visit the distressed air area, why Goering isn't to be seen anywhere, and especially why the Fuhrer does not for once talk to the German people to explain the present situation. I consider it very necessary that the Fuhrer do this.”

During the famous putsch, Hitler behaved cowardly; after the first shot was fired he run away and later was picked up by the police in Haefstangles house. It was Goering the stood up during the skirmish and was wounded. Hitler's close associate Rauschning states in his memoirs:

Hitler is timid and sensitive. He has to force himself by much preparation to put on a bold front; then he becomes aggressive. He lives in a world of insincerity, deceiving and self-deceiving. But hatred is like vine to him, it intoxicates him. Hitler is exacting, spoiled, avaricious, and greedy. He is incapable of working. He gets ideas, impulses, the realization of which must be feverishly achieved and immediately get rid of. Nothing about him is natural...

Hitler seems a man of tremendous will power, but the appearance is deceptive. He is languid and apathetic by nature, and needs the stimulus of nervous excitement to rouse him out of his chronic lethargy to a spasmodic activity.

Hitler had frequent nightmares, during which he foamed at the mouth, panting and stammering in uncontrolled fury: " I won't have it! Get rid of all of them! Traitors!" He was an alarming sight, his hair disheveled, his eyes fixed, and his face distorted and purple. I feared the he would collapse, or have an apoplectic fit. Suddenly it was all over.

DETACHED FROM REALITY

Hitler was completely detached from reality, instead to adjusting his assumption to reality he tried to adjust reality to his perception. During the initial stages of the war with Russia he assumed that the Russians are finished, and despite to the intelligence reports to the contrary, he did not change his assumption, until it was to late.

Gen. Halder the German Chief of Staff, commented in his dairy on Hitler's detachment from reality:

“Hitler's decisions had ceased to have anything in common with the principles of strategy and operations as they have been recognized for generations past. They were the product of a violent nature following its momentary impulses, which recognized no limits to possibility and which made its wish dreams the father of its acts”

Halder told also how Hitler lived in his fantasy world:

“Once when a quite objective report was read to him showing that still in 1942 Stalin would be able to muster from one to one and quote million fresh troops in the region north of Stalin grad and west of the Volga, not to mention half a million men in the Caucasus, and which provided proof the Russian output of front-line tanks amounted to at least 1,200 a month. Hitler flew at the man who was reading with clenched fists and foam in the corners of his mouth and forbade him to read any more of such idiotic twaddle.”

MEGALOMANIA

Megalomania is defined as extreme over-evaluation of oneself. Hitler was a mega-megalomaniac. When the Austrian Chancellor, Schuschnigg, visited Hitler to discuss the Austrian German agreements, Hitler bragged: "I am the greatest German in all history. I have reached the most a German leader has ever reached in German history."

SULKINESS AND CHANGE OF MOOD

Hitler was known for his outbursts, temper and sulkiness. Wagener comments about Hitler:

“[He] could fly into an indignant rage, whereby the vein on his forehead from the top oh his nose to his hairline swelled and grew blue in almost terrifying way, and his voice cracked, so it seemed that he would fear for his life-and for our own as well.... The attacks however were infrequent and Hitler himself was afraid of them- particularly since afterwards he always collapsed and had to at medication to calm himself.... I am certain that it was the expression of a morbid compulsion, connected somehow with a glandular malfunction.”

Hitler's mood fluctuated between blackest depression and uncontrollable rage. Among intimate friends, Hitler let himself go. I often heard him shout and stamp his feet. The slightest contradiction threw him into rage. People began to be afraid of his incalculable temper.

He behaved like a combination of a spoiled child and a hysterical woman. He scolded in high, shrill tones, stamped his feet, and banged his fist on tables and walls. He foamed at the mouth, panting and stammering in uncontrolled fury.

Mukesh finds similarities between Bridge and Management

Mukesh Shivdasanithe CEO of Max health care also be called as Mr. Consistent.

Q. What makes Max Healthcare different from other known Hospitals?

Our USP is our focus on Total Patient Care - which involves empathetic listening, offering choices and responding to the patients’ medical and other needs in a holistic way. Total Patient Care aims at managing the patients’ disease as well as caring about their physical, mental and emotional self.

Max Hospitals is also one of the first to cover the NCR region with our hospitals in Gurgaon and Noida.

We continuously demonstrate Best-in-class practicing that satisfies the needs of the patient and those that support the patient. For us, the patient as well as other stakeholders, which include the family, and referring doctors or Corporates or TPA’s are a key customer in the delivery of care.

Q. Please explain International Patient Services? How it helps the people of our country? Have Max ever received cases under this?

Max Healthcare aims at building on the strong base in India to become a truly global healthcare provider. Through our International Patient Services program we compete in global markets to deliver highest quality healthcare to patients worldwide regardless of their economic circumstance. Under the program, medical queries along with scans are received from patients or facilitators through email. Queries are then forwarded to the respective doctors at Max Healthcare after which the diagnosis and proposed treatment is sent back to the patient. A conference call is arranged between the patient and the doctor - if the patient is satisfied, he/ she confirm the date for the procedure.

At present, under this program we have patients from the SAARC nations, Middle East and from the West. Our aim is to grow the program to service patients from multiple cultures and diversities.

The International Patient Service program also helps service providers such as Max Healthcare to network with professionals across the globe, which enables us to share best practices in medical care. The final beneficiary of this is the patient.

Q The popular public perception is that, for a middle class family, Max Hospital is a very expensive hospital to afford, and is therefore only for people who can afford such a luxury? How far is this perception true? Does Max have different policies for different categories of people?

I am not sure whether such perception exists within the public. The fact is that the Max Healthcare network covers eight locations, as of date, spread over NCR.

The total number of patients that have availed our services is in excess of 500,000 and they represent the entire chain of the economic spectrum. Over the past two years, we have seen significant addition from middle class families in all our hospitals.

Max Healthcare does not have different policies for different categories of people. Every patient receives the same level of Medical Care. Some differentiation in non-medical services may exist for those in private rooms.

Q What made you join the field (healthcare industry) where you are at present?

My joining the Healthcare industry was in some ways, shaped by recent events at that time. I was relocating from Hong Kong where I worked with Bank of America to be with the family in Delhi when I was offered an interesting assignment with Max India. Shortly thereafter I got an opportunity to lead Healthcare operations and it was exciting to achieve the mission of building world-class service standards, having witnessed it first hand during my tenure abroad.

I truly believed that Hospitals in India needed to improve on its delivery of care and Max Healthcare was the right vehicle to do so. Thankfully time has proved that I made the right choice.

Better management of the healthcare sector is an approach to increase health standards and Max is a pioneer in introducing new state-of-the-art technology for patient benefit and comfort.

Q. Tell me something about your qualification? Do you think your qualification is the right fit for the healthcare industry, which is known more for its medical degrees?

I hold a Bachelor’s degree in Chemical Engineering from the Indian Institute of Technology, Delhi and am an alumnus of the Indian Institute of Management, Kolkata. Over the many years I have been involved in both Manufacturing and Service Industry, I have realized that the fundamental value of education lies partly in the knowledge acquired but mainly in one’s ability to learn.

The world class Institutions where I have had the good fortune to receive my education have made it easy for me to do so. The Healthcare industry clearly needed, and now even more so, professionals from other domains. If ultimately the objective of the industry is to deliver continuously higher value than experts from various fields must join hands with Medical professionals.

Q. How often do you take a break from your busy schedule?

I take breaks as needed.

Q. How do you spend your leisure time?

I am voracious reader and also play competitive bridge. Besides, my 2 pets at home are excellent play mates.

Q. Tell us something about your family –your wife and children?

guess you can call me Mr. Consistent – one wife, one child. My wife is a homemaker who has taken complete responsibility for managing the household. She also teaches in her spare time. My daughter is an HR professional who, I think, has made more of a mark than I did when I was her age.

Q. I have heard you have a love for the game of ‘Bridge’ and you are an expert? Tell us about this passion? Do you feel there are any similarities between bridge and management?

I can’t say I am an expert but I have been playing bridge since my IIT days and am passionate about it. Actually Bridge is much more than a game … it is a clear mirror of one’s owns self.

There are many similarities between Bridge and Management and it is my fond belief that good Bridge player make good Managers. Bridge requires one to make rapid decisions under pressure, calls for sharp focus, the ability to stay aligned with your partner and team mates, and above all a “winning” philosophy… These qualities go a very long way in the real world.

Q. What is your personal stress-buster?

Stress… what is that?

Money is the key for a happy marriage

Even if you aren’t good looking, chances are bright that you will settle down to wedded bliss if you have a substantial bank account.

IT IS true that love has nothing to do with money but is it true looks matter when it comes on love? A study has been done that provides hard facts to the suggestions that the fairer sex is wan not to a man’s looks, but to his status, power and wealth.

According to historical data from 1909 of more than 30,000 men’s are in short supplies due to events such as wars; women are willing to settle for poorer partners of lesser social sway. However, when men are in profusion, women tend to turn fussy, driving a haggle for the richest and most powerful men. This in turn, has the marriage prospects of poor-off male ‘radically reduced’.

As quoted by Thomas Pollet, “We show that if men are abundant, this will influence the market value of their desired traits, that is, women can demand more. This aspect, namely individual decision making as a function of the mating market (local abundance or scarcity), has been relatively neglected within the literature on human mate choice.”

According to the answers, when the sex ratio is equivalent, married men be inclined to have a little higher socio-economic status than unmarried. “As the sex ratio augments, married men are expected to need up two or three times the socioeconomic status of unmarried men,” he said.

The study gets confirmed on 1991 forecasted by Frank Pedersen of the University of Delaware that the sex percentage has a big impact on the marriage market.

“Thus, much about the varying culture of male and female behaviour across populations and across time could in slandered be clarified with orientation to the sex ratio.” said Pollet.

These questions are mature for future study, but our studies has clearly recognised the more limited fact that sex ratio fluctuations in current humans can put one sex in the driving seat and allow them to drive a hard haggle.

Real estate firms engage in brand building exercise

The real estate industry is developing new ways of introducing its brand, taking the help of sponsored events, brand-building proposals, tie-ups and high value advertisements. They are doing all these to rectify the negative image in the market.

MOST REAL estate players in India have a negative image in the market. To regain a good image in front of people, the real estate companies have started a branding effort, which is moving beyond usual media preparation. They have company campaigns apart from project specific one’s and are gradually increasing and forcefully using the electronic mediums for brand building.

Firms that remain locked in the tunnel vision of customary branding, there performs will fail to see the disaster, fail to understand it, fail to act on it, and finally find their brands suffering.

Firms that expand their view to include social-paradigm based practices will see the crisis developing, be able to understand it, test it and with approaches, it will address as well seize competitive advantage and profits from its resolution.

For example, DLF has sponsored events like DLF Cup, Tri Series and the UAE Cup, Nasscom CEO Meet, and so on. They are spending maximum time with their consumers to see how satisfied they are with their decision of buying DLF residences. Emaar MGF is stepping up its brand building proposals. Their most recent connection was with international cricket event, to get attract Indian eyeballs for their future projects here.

Many are also sponsoring industry-specific events across sectors like retail, financial services and so on. Everyone in the real estate industry is making tangible efforts to craft their brand image and be the best among all. Purvankara, Eros, Vipul, Omaxe, etc. are making efforts to drive their icon in the market.

Apart from the basic outlook, the rising number of players in the space and the fact those players are now developing as national region players. Brand building is nothing but is the need of the hour, so as to cut across the rivalry. As many groups are listed on the stock market, it’s not necessary to follow so as to uphold an incessant touch with their investors. Rising stock listing rush is also fueling those who are unlisted.

The Internet has always been and always will be a straight reply vehicle, but so it is with branding. How did you first become aware of google.com? Was it by watching Harbhajan Singh bowling something related to this name in a cricket match or perhaps did a friend tell you about this great search site? Were you are looking for tall man or did you notice a sign of a company with the apparently unrelated name in search business? Branding has been a part of the Internet since commercialisation began.

Almost all the realty companies have doubled their branding expenditures. The investments towards the reasons are backed by the growth in the sector and eventually the authentic performance of all the companies and are heavily enjoying the sale in black. Almost all the companies witnessed a quantum jump in profits (by more than 50 per cent).

The fact remains that with the Indian consumers becoming more demanding and increasing contribution of global investors, it has become essential to brand almost every thing and real estate is no exemption. As we move ahead, it’s quite clear that marketers are looking to combine brands and invest their capital behind those that can perform on a global basis.

Once the strategic conclusion has been made about, which brands will be emanated to this status, substantially effort will be required to determine the degree of steadiness that is suitable and the means of achieving that steadiness will then be used more professionally achieving broad-based brand credit and transmission a unified message worldwide.

Do looks matter?

How important is it to look good? Do looks really matter to you? Would you choose your partner based on whether or not he/she has an A+ in the looks department?

“I PREFER a girl, who is sexy and hot and looks the best when she is walking with me,” says Kunal, a 22-year-old student. A question comes to mind - why do guys or girls want someone more attractive than themselves? Do looks matter?

According to the study conducted by Columbia University researchers, people rather date those who are fairly more attractive than they are. The research was done by analysing two data sets on an online rendezvous site called HOTorNOT.com. One set of data held members who had dating requests and the other included the magnetism ratings of other members.

The result of the study shows that as compared to women, males were more influenced by how physically attractive their dates were, but did not recognise how attractive they were for themselves, when making a decision on whom to date.

Do you think judging people by their looks is what matters for long and happy relationships? A short survey was conducted by Merinews network at Metropolitan mall, Gurgaon. “I am dark and my wife is fair. That doesn’t mean I love her more than she does, or she wanted someone better looking than what she is. We had a love marriage and we are very happy together. Looks don’t matter,” says Ramesh, sales executive.

It is true that people get attracted to beauty but there is a saying, ‘beauty lies in the eyes of beholder,’ so what you see may not be beautiful but what you can’t may be the most beautiful thing you would ever see. “I don’t judge beauty from its physically status, beauty is what is within the person,” says Varun, a 23-year-old employee, sharing his view towards beauty.

After the survey, we came to the conclusion that, when people are speaking fervently and are in an imaginative ‘zone’ or a state of well being, they appear to be more beautiful and lively, possibly even glowing. It makes sense that individuals who are the most creative, flexible, and lively should be the most striking to others.

The truth is, it’s the physical attraction, which draws people into relationships, but it often results in sexual union and this is the reason that attracts a person to the opposite sex.

No matter how good you look, there will always be someone better looking. It’s your nature, your individuality, your habits and your character, which means more than your face.

What makes you the special person is you yourself. Good looks can only take you so far but good nature is what counts more. A man may be extremely handsome, but if he doesn’t have good habits, and if he doesn’t know how to make a woman feel special, he is not going to keep you or anyone happy, and the same goes for women. All that really matter is the attitude, nature and the personality of a person.

The truth is, beauty would not last forever, but attitude will, so all men and women need to understand the inner beauty before they go for the physical beauty.